"Anger and conflict during divorce hurts children both now and later. It can affect how well they do in school and how they relate to friends now. Later in life, it can affect how they choose a wife or husband, and whether they can make a marriage last."
Debra K. Carter, Coparenting After Divorce
Fathers and mothers who interact positively with each other contribute to their child’s positive development in several ways. Children exposed to positive coparenting are less likely to manifest problem behaviors like aggression and hyperactivity, and they tend to have better social skills. Negative coparenting has been found to have negative effects on a child’s social skills, cognitive development, language acquisition and development, overall mental health and emotional regulation.
What is Parenting Coordination?
Parenting coordination is a process where an impartial third person helps parties implement their parenting plan by facilitating the resolution of disputes between parents and/or legal guardians, providing education, making recommendations to the parties, and with prior approval of the parties and the court, when the court is involved, making decisions within the scope of the court order of appointment.The parenting coordinator may assist the parties by: providing education regarding the developmental needs of the children and the effects of parental separation on family members, coparenting, and parental communication. The parenting coordinator monitors compliance with the established parenting plan and assists the parties in effectively facilitating their time-sharing arrangements. The parenting coordinator will use conciliation skills to assist the parties in resolving child related issues and reducing the potential for future parental conflict.The process of parenting coordination is NOT confidential in most jurisdictions.
Whether court-ordered or voluntary, this child-centered approach to more peacefully raising children in two separate households can result in a healthier child, as well as both parents having less stress and anxiety, and participating more fully in the life of their child.